Sometimes I lash out at my kid. Sometimes I feel down and depressed and stressed out of my mind. Most of the time, my life feels like the days are stuck on repeat. Perpetual groundhog day.
Sometimes I can’t shake it. It’s all poor me, life sucks, life is so damn hard!
You know those moments.
But today… today reminds me why it’s so crucial for any mom to intentionally surround themselves with the little things in life that truly make them feel happy – especially when life has you feeling exhausted, depleted, or just stuck in that shitty mood you just can’t seem to budge out of. The outdoor beauty that surrounds the place you love and call home, being in nature, a quick shopping trip, a nice dinner out, a yoga class, spending time with good friends… whatever that thing is for you. Because these are the things we need to rejuvenate our spirits and move us out of the crap swamp and into a mindset of I can do this. I got this. Life is goooooood.
We live about two miles down the road from this spot that has the most beautiful, picture-perfect, kid-friendly river – refreshing swimming hole and magical waterfall included! It’s so peaceful there. The river is quiet with a safe, gentle current. There’s a sandy beach for the kids to play in that has shade and the entire area is surrounded by magnificently tall redwood trees and lush greenery. Every time I go there it fills my soul with the essence of what life is truly about.
Today it was a hot, muggy, 98 degrees. I took a dive in the cold water as soon as I got there and was instantly rejuvenated and brought back to life. There’s just something about this place that seems to make all my worries or stresses of the day fade away. At least, until I tell my two-year-old it’s time to leave or “no you can’t steel that kid’s toy truck” and all hell breaks loose… but that is why sneaking in these moments of heart-aligned ecstasy are so important! We need to off-set those “Seriously, you are driving me out of my freakin’ mind!” kind of moments.
Every time I go to this place, there’s at least one or two other families there that also have small kids or there’s another mom with a toddler who is also pregnant like me. It’s definitely making it’s name as “the kid and pregnant lady spot” no doubt! haha. But it’s perfect.
The little one’s play and swim together and I’m always meeting new people and making new friends. This is just one example of how easy it’s been to find an amazing community of like-minded moms in Santa Cruz – and it has been a complete blessing! If any mommas out there reading this don’t have a mom tribe of their own yet and struggle with the same things I do, than I really can’t stress enough how important it’s been for me and what a difference it might make in your life if you set out to create one of your own!
Having a mom tribe is the shit.
I’ll probably end up talking a lot more about this in the future because it has seriously transformed my experience of parenting. I really don’t know if I could do this without them! Talk about breaking up the monotony… One shout out to my momma tribe can instantly transform a boring, sheltered day into one of adventure and grown-up talk with people who get me and my life to a “T.”
There’s really nothing better.
My husband and I moved to Santa Cruz from San Diego about 2 1/2 years ago when I was pregnant with my first son and it was a really hard transition. San Diego was my home and I loved living there. Finding any place that would replace it seemed so far fetched. I felt the loss the same way you do almost anytime you uproot your life but because I was about to have a baby it felt 10 times worse. I missed home. I longed for the sense of belonging I had there. I missed my friends, my support system.
Now fast forward to today and I can’t imagine going back. My heart is aligned with the vibe here, with the people, with the granola-mom honesty and realness. I feel like I found my place. We have the beach, the forest and the rivers too. So much beauty to sink my heart into every day if I choose. So much outside of my front door that I can go to when I’m feeling the stresses of motherhood begin to eat away at my state-of-mind.
I truly believe that finding your spot in this world is so crucial to living an inspired, happy life. It’s amazing how powerful it is to live somewhere where you truly feel at home and where you vibe with the people and the culture. If you don’t have this in your life right now, I recommend making it your mission to find it. It just might reshape the way you look at things, inspire your sense of drive and wonder and empower you to live your best life!
So I’m thankful for days like today and for what they help me to remember and feel grateful for. I feel aligned and brought back to my center. I feel free to be fully present in my life again.